Modest Wedding Dress Guidelines

There are so many different discussions and viewpoints online about modesty and everyone seems to have their own opinion on the matter. Because we sell modest wedding gowns we deal with the topic of modesty a lot and we have realized that everyone has their own idea of what being modest means.  Because we work with several different wedding dress designers, they too have their own opinion of what a modest wedding gown should be like. Some designers have very conservative necklines and sleeve lengths while others tend to not be as strict.

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Beautiful modest wedding gown-Available at our store.

In order to follow the LDS Temple guidelines for modest dresses we try to work closely with our designers in order to make our dresses appropriate for LDS Temples. Each LDS Temple is slightly different on what they will let a bride wear to be sealed (married) in. The general guidelines can be viewed here and are as follows:

Wedding Dresses: Brides may wear their wedding dresses through the temple if these dresses meet accepted standards: white, high-neck or provided with a dickie, wrist-length sleeves, long skirt length. Trains are not recommended and hence should be detachable. Large hoop dresses are generally not recommended either, so the hoop should be detachable if your dress has one. Incidentally, there are many shades of white, so do not be too concerned about the shade, as long as it is white. All temples have white dresses that are satisfactory for a temple sealing in case you do not have your own wedding dress. Ask the temple matron about this, if it applies.

As you can tell from these guidelines, most modest wedding dresses don’t have all of these criteria, nor do most brides want full length sleeves and detachable trains.  Because of this, we like to recommend that our brides, who are getting sealed in the Temple, either wear a long-sleeved leotard under their dress and make sure to have their train busseled, or wear their regular temple dress for the ceremony and change into their wedding gown afterward (many brides are choosing this option so they can have an ivory wedding gown, which tends to photograph better and be more flattering on most skin tones). Be sure to check with your specific temple matron on what they will and will not allow the bride to wear for the ceremony.

You can view a list of the temples with phone numbers here

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Even gowns with full-length sleeves rarely have fully-lined sleeves.

 

LDS Olympian Faced with Modesty Dilemma at Photo Shoot

I love this story about Noelle Pikus Pace, the USA skeleton racer, and Olympic silver medalist. She was asked to wear something that wasn’t very modest for a photo shoot and she stood up for what she believed in. Here is one of my favorite excerpts from her story:

“When it came down to it, though, wearing the dress or not was a very easy decision for me to make, because I had already chosen to stand as a witness of God “at all times and in all things, and in all places” (Mosiah 18:9).

I had decided a long time ago that I wouldn’t let the vision and expectations of the world determine who I am or what I stand for. What I wear is one symbol of who I am and how I feel about myself. I handed the dress back to Diane and told her, “I want to be modest. It’s just who I am, and I am sorry but I can’t wear this.” I expected her to roll her eyes and try to convince me to wear it, but she surprised me.

“Oh, sweetie, I’m a good Christian girl and completely understand and respect your beliefs. Let’s find you something else to wear.” I was shocked and elated by her understanding and support of my decision.”

Noelle is such a great example of making the decision the dress modestly before ever being encountered with the question of whether she’ll be modest or not. To read her complete story visit ldsliving.com

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What Boys Really Think

Have you seen this video? These high-school aged boys were interviewed and asked about what they think makes a girl attractive, what makes for a perfect date, and what they’re looking for in their future. I love how sincere they all are in their answers. This is a great video to illustrate that boys prefer girls who are modest in dress and comfortable with who they are and the standards they can share.

This is my favorite quote from the post before the video:

“I think all girls, no matter their religious preference, they want to be noticed, they want to have confidence and beauty,” Griffin said. “The world tells a completly different story. But if you find beauty in the right source and look to God for confidence, you can be happy. I think all girls could benefit from that message.”

To watch the video click here.